A huge part of the time, parenting can be a very hard job. All of us as parents do some of what we have learned through our parents and the rest of what we have learned and feel is best for our own children. Sometimes as parents we forget that each child is different and sometimes are affected greatly by different things in his or her life. As parents we sometimes wish when things get tough that our children would come with a training manual, but we all know that is wishful thinking. Sometimes we feel like there is not much else that we can do to help improve the situation when something is going on with your child.
What To Do?
It is hard to figure out what to do sometimes when your child is getting in trouble at school and is acting out at home. You may never figure out what could be causing this turmoil inside of your child. Children do not know how to handle their feelings and sometimes acting out is the only way that they know how to cope. Be patient, even if it means letting them unleash all of their frustrations on you, let them get it out of their system.
How Can You Help?
- Be patient and understanding
- If they are crying hug them and show them you love them
- Do not punish them harshly
- Let them know they can talk to you
- Be there for them and try to spend extra time with them one on one if possible
Show Them You Are There
Even though a happy family isn’t always an easy thing to accomplish, it is still very important. Sometimes as the adult even you feel frustrated and confused because you do not know how to handle this situation. You must be patient. Show your child you are there for him or her and try to understand that your child has not turned into a bad kid. When taking the time to spend one on one time with him, ask him so how are things at school going? Sometimes this might break the ice and get your child to talk. If there is a negative comment about someone picking on him or a problem with a friend, ask him how they would change the problem. Be subtle and be careful of how your word your questions.
To forward of a question might tip them off that you are prying or might trigger the hurt of fear feelings that they are experiencing. If school does not seem to be the problem, think about what has been going on in their home life. Has there been a death, or a major event that has taken place at home that they are having problems coping with and do not know how to handle the situation. There could also be a number of small things that are bothering them. Be patient and try to be understanding but the most important thing is to just be there and this is important when you are doing your family planning time.